Do you think you really know your child? I don't mean know what he/she likes and doesn't like, but to know him/her well enough to understand his/her challenges, to appreciate his/her strengths and weaknesses and to help him/her develop his talents. Knowing your children can help increase their chance for success in the future and improve your relationship.
As parents, we are constantly looking for ways to improve out relationship with our children, discipline our children and provide proper guidance. How many of us take the time to get to really know our child? Some of us believe that our children are extensions of us and don't have their own thoughts, dreams and goals. When was the last time you sat down with your child to find out what they are thinking? The answers may surprise you. Children, especially during puberty, start to discover and develop their identity. They go through an emotional and psychological identity crisis and question and challenge their parents. At this point, children start to crave support and direction from their parents, but are not always compelled to ask for it. But how can you help your child, if you do not know their needs? Simple, ask them!
You are not a mind reader and your child probably will not voluntarily share his/her personal information with you. When you start to offer unsolicited advice, they feel that you are being intrusive or nosy and get defensive.
There are two simple steps to getting to know your child.
The first step is to listen more and speak less. Let your child direct the conversation and when they ask for your advice, offer it without being judgmental or critical. Lecturing and berating your child for poor judgment or unhealthy decisions will not help you to understand him/her more because you will not be getting to the core reason for the behavior. If you do not have the proper information, how can you give your child the support that he/she needs? By listening, you will be able to help your child understand how their choices and decisions affect their lives and direct them to making healthier and more responsible decisions. By being an active listener, you learn to acknowledge what your child is feeling and give your child the information and advice that he/she needs.
The second step is to ask the questions that will create meaningful conversation. The typical responses to “How was your day?” are “Good” or “Fine.” Ask open ended questions instead of closed ended questions that result in one word responses. Ask specific rather than general questions that will stimulate your child to think. Show your child that you have a genuine interest in what is going on in his/her life. Don't force this process, let it come naturally and soon your child will respond. Ask casually and soon your child will start to volunteer the information. Find out who influences your child. Even ask tough questions such as, "How do you feel about our family?" The point is not to judge your child's responses, but to know what he/she is thinking or how he/she is feeling. Ask your child if he/she has any resolutions for this year. What was his/her biggest challenge or setback last year? Ask the questions without interrogating. Don't bombard them with questions or you may face resistance. Resolve today to spend a few minutes each day getting to know your child better. This is one of the most valuable gifts you can give to your child.
Marie Magdala Roker is an Academic and Personal Development Coach and Certified Breakthrough Parenting Instructor who works with parents to help them unlock and nurture the personal and academic potential in their children and motivate their children to success.
You can find her on the web at http://www.successfulchild.com.
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The state of South Dakota and the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe sign gambling compact
The state of South Dakota and the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe have reached a new compact regarding operation of the tribe's Grand River Casino in
Corson County.
Gov. Mike Rounds and tribal Chairman Ron His Horse Is Thunder signed the revised
compact Tuesday in a ceremony at the casino, across the Missouri River from Mobridge.
"The new compact is for a term of 10 years, six years longer than the previous four-year compact, " Rounds said.
The Standing Rock Tribe is allowed to have 250 slot machines and an unlimited number of poker and blackjack tables in the casino, the same number of gaming devices that the tribe was allowed to have under the previous compact.
The maximum bet limit at the Grand River Casino is $100, the same limit state law sets for bets at privately owned casinos in Deadwood.
Rounds said the tribe agreed to a new provision in the compact requiring up to $1 million in general liability insurance to protect customers who may be injured at the casino.
The new compact is subject to review by the U. S. Secretary of the Interior, who must approve or disapprove the compact within 45 days under federal law. source>>>
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It can be said that any man who procreates is a father, whether present in that child’s life or not
It can be said that any man who procreates is a father, whether present in that child’s life or not. While this is technically true, it really takes a man to be a dad!
There is nothing more insulting than a cavalier man thinking he has every right in the world to see the child he helped to create, but was never there for him or her. It is as if he or she is obligated to him like that of a debt.
As a child of a broken home and now as a father myself, I know the purest definition of being a dad is the time spent with your child that will always prevail in the end.
Would you remember your father more if he was a millionaire but never there, or a near-penniless man who spent time with you and showed you the love you needed?
To me, it’s a no brainer!
However, many dynamics can and do interfere with being a dad. Turmoil-ridden marriages, separations, relocations, resentment from the child, and the ever-abundant brainwashing of a child to hate.
So if you’re a father doing his best to be a dad, how do you overcome such obstacles?
Do everything in your power to maintain the bond you have with your child! If that means following that child to Timbuktu and lose your career, getting on better terms with the child’s mother, or simply putting more time into strengthening the father-child relationship.
If there is anything I can take from my own father, is that of sporadic appearances and child support from over 2000 miles away never satisfied my need for a dad. Today, as a 32 yr. old man, it has never been so evident how important a dad is in a child’s life. My humble opinion is that I would have had a lot less security issues had a dad been present in my childhood.
When your child was created, that little person should have been the most important part of your existence and to vow never to break that mindset should have been paramount. The seriousness of having a child from the conception and subsequently recognizing his or her importance could be the factor with dead beat dads in most cases.
How do you rank your values?
Simply put, if you’re ranked above your child, you’re not being a dad, you’re the father of that child who simply donated your sperm for his or her life.
Instead of just being a donor to another’s life, commit to taking the time to know your child and let them get to know you no matter what the conditions.
With this in mind, you will be doing the most important job of your life and that is helping the life you created become a loving, well adjusted person who can pass these parenting traits down to the next generation.
After all, isn’t that what being a dad is all about?
by Brian Maloney-ValuePrep.com
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A LITTLE SUNDAY HUMOR: KIDS IN CHURCH
A four-year-old Catholic boy was playing with a four-year-old Protestant girl in a children's pool in the backyard. They splashed each other, got very wet and decided to take their wet clothes off. The little boy looked at the little girl and said, "Golly, I didn't know there was that much difference between Catholics and Protestants."
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While walking along the sidewalk in front of his church, our minister heard the intoning of a prayer that nearly made his collar wilt. Apparently his five-year-old son and his playmates had found a dead robin. Feeling that proper burial should be performed, they had secured a small box and cotton batting, then dug a hole and made ready for the disposal of the deceased. The minister's son was chosen to say the appropriate prayers and with sonorous dignity intoned his version of what he thought his father always said, "Glory be unto the Faaaather, and unto the Sonnnn. . . and into the hole you goooo."
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The Sunday school teacher was carefully explaining the story of Elijah the Prophet and the false prophets of Baal. She explained how Elijah built the altar, put wood upon it, cut the steer in pieces and laid it upon the altar. And then Elijah commanded the people of God to fill four barrels of water and pour it over the altar. He had them do this four times. "Now, said the teacher, "can anyone in the class tell me why the Lord would have Elijah pour water over the steer on the altar?"
A little girl raised her hand with great enthusiasm and said "To make the gravy!"
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Vauxhall VXR8 Headed for UK
Ford Motor Company surely understands the need for comfortable and well-designed interior cabins and spared us the torture. GM's Vauxhall division in Australia has designed and built the VXR8 supercar exclusively for UK peeps.
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Toyota: 3rd Most Admired Company
For this year, the Fortune magazine did ask for information from people and asked them which company should be aptly named the most admired company in the country. In fact, the magazine did get the opinion from 3, 322 people and these people are executives, securities analysts, and directors in different fields.
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The Effectiveness Of Car Seat Clinics
Clinics are part of educational programs and campaigns of various groups – those who are concerned about passenger safety and also those organizations and businesses in the auto industry. And as per a study and research conducted by one of these concerned groups, Safe Kids Worldwide, the results did quite show that such events do help out a lot in letting people know just how important it is to have child car safety seats installed properly in vehicles.
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DuPont Names Most Beautiful Cars on Earth
Selected by the duPont REGISTRY staff for being the most exceptional, valuable and popular entries, here are the top 10 cars from the first issue and the top 10 from the current edition. Top 10 Cars from 1st Issue 1929 Duesenberg J-123 "Murphy" 1972 Ferrari Dino 1933 Mercedes Benz Type SS Lamborghini Countach 1956 Maserati 200 SI 1932 Bugatti Type 54 300 H.P. Supercharges 82 to 85 Porsche 911 Targa or Cab 1972 Ferrari Daytona Spyder 1931 Bucciali Paris Show Car 1936 Packard V12 Dietrich Bodied 4 dr. Convertible
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